Okay, so talking dirt about other people. I swear - some people are addicted to this stuff. Some sort of sick pleasure comes out of heavy gossip that makes the other person sound like the worst person that ever walked this planet. And sure I'm being hypocritical because we've ALL done that at one point or another.
There was this incident at the beginning of the semester where this girl was writing about her 3 other roommates in her livejournal saying horrible things about them - and it was completely obvious. Needless to say, that was a downfall there.
Now I see where people get the need to talk about other people, but the problem is taking it too far.
So how do you know if you've taken it too far?
Well usually the people who you are talking to will look at you weird or say something like "I don't really want to get involved" or "I don't know" They will also probably look rather uneasy about the subject (especially if they actually know the person). These are all signs that you should probably back off the subject before it backfires in your face.
Now turn it around. People (a friend, a roommate, an acquaintance) start talking about you. People you have never even met before are giving you strange looks, and your friends don't want to hang out with you anymore. You'll end up closing into yourself and wondering what's wrong with you. The rest of the year, you are miserable, but try to find something to look forward to (letters, phone calls from people at home, trying to get new friends, etc) but mainly just counting down the days to go home - to not have to deal with your friends anymore.
It's horrible.
Observation of this post? Talking dirt does nothing but hurt people, and there's no reason for it. If you're talking dirt now, it's never too late to stop. Let people know that you may have gone a bit too far in your conversations and that maybe that one person is actually nice or actually has some stress going on as to why they're acting a certain way.
You may not know it, but whether you like it or not, you impact the lives of people around you in ways you never expected to. Something that you may think is completely harmless can really hurt a person and change their lives forever. So please, just be careful with what you say and how you act because you never know.
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